Ending a relationship often leads to question by the person who didn't want to see it come to an end. When that person has questions or is confused about the breakup, it leads to problems. Closure is extremely important for several reasons. Closure is what allows us to get on with our lives after a breakup.
Importance of Closure when a Relationship Ends:
Understanding- Having closure means you have a better understanding about what happened. You don't go through the rest of your life wondering what you did wrong. In fact, chances are, you didn't do anything wrong at all. Some people simply aren't meant to be together no matter how much they want to be. Understanding that gives you closure and closure gives you the opportunity to move on.
Moving Forward- Closure is the only real way to move forward. If you want to have healthy relationships in the future that aren't full of fear and suspicion, closure makes it easier to realize. We don't always find the answers that we are looking for. That could be through dishonesty of the other person about what the true reasons were or simply because there is no real answer. However, there is usually something there that helps us get closure. Just don't dwell on it when you don't find the answers you are looking for. It could turn into a lifelong obsession that isn't healthy for you or those in your life.
No More Anger than Necessary- When we get closure, we are less likely to stay angry. Anger can cause us to do things that we wouldn't normally do. We find ways to take our anger out on other people and that is not good. Moving on is important and closure allows you to get rid of a lot of anger issues that you might otherwise carry around with you.
Fewer Consequences- There are fewer consequences to the breakup if there is closure. There are less consequences to not having closure because no one is likely to lash out in anger. If you don't lash out in anger, there is nothing to pay for. People have been arrested as the result of not feeling closure at the end of a relationship. They do something stupid and the next thing you know the police are involved. Find closure so that you aren't one of those people that end up in the back of a police cruiser.
We aren't always fortunate enough to get closure when a relationship ends. The person who breaks up the relationship isn't always kind enough to let that happen. You can survive without getting the closure, but there will always be something there that makes you wonder what really happened. Sometimes you can't do anything about it. Do your best to try to find it though. It is the only way to effectively move on.