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How Weight Gain Affect your Sex Life

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How weight gain can affect your sex life

When it comes to sex, it’s true: size matters.  We’re not talking genitalia here. During the course of the average relationship, one or both partners may gain a few pounds.  Since you can’t live off love or sex, you have to eat. 

Food is important and it’s everywhere.  Most first dates start out with dinner.  Soon you two are inseparable.  You spend a lot of time together, eating both of your favorite foods.  It can be so seductive.

There’s nothing wrong with that.  At the same time though, you have to be conscious of what you’re eating and drinking, as well as how much. 

Packing on the pounds can affect your sex life in various ways that are closely linked.  First of all, if you don’t feel good about the way you look, chances are you won’t believe that your partner does either.  Even if your partner isn’t bothered by the extras, you will be. 

So, the number one way that gaining weight affects your sex life is that it leads to a lack of confidence. No more do you want your partner seeing you naked.  Every opportunity is seized to cover up.  You may even opt to get it on with the lights off because you’re embarrassed by the new roll around your waist.   

The mind trip you go on redirects your focus away from the sex, resulting in another way your sex life is affected by gaining weight.  You can barely focus on the delightful sensations of your partner kissing and touching you.  All the while you’re too uncomfortable to reciprocate eagerly.  Your focus is on something else, like how big your stomach looks.

Achieving the ultimate sensation that sex has to offer, reaching orgasm will elude you every time, because you’re not relaxed.  This has a significant effect on the sex life also.  In order to orgasm, you have to let yourself go.  In order to let yourself go you have to comfortable.

This next and last affect that gaining weight can have on your sex life is avoiding intimacy altogether because you don’t feel attractive anymore.  At this point some action should be taken to remedy the situation.  Clearly it has gotten out of control.

If you have fallen victim to this situation or are headed that way, stop yourself.  Get active.  Use your partner, who you really do want to please, as motivation.  More importantly do whatever necessary to get your confidence back.  Being your own motivation is even more rewarding.  Get your body back.   

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