Personality Disorders

How to help someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder

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Narcissists are people are very often difficult to deal with because they do not have a conscience regarding how they treat other people.  If someone in your life is a narcissist, they can have a very profound negative effect on your own personal self-esteem.  Because they do not understand how harmful their words can be, they do not taking personal responsibility for anything that they have done wrong.  Instead, they turn all negative thoughts and feelings upon the person that they are having a conversation with.

These people are self-absorbed. They are often too caught up in themselves to worry about those around them. Even when the topic is not about them, they somehow find a way to incorporate themselves into the situation. Help them by guiding them back onto topic and remind them the topic at hand. You never want to confront or insult them. They cannot help themselves nor do they understand what is going on with them.

Always be sympathetic and understanding to them. Never allow your personal feelings or opinions to get in the way of helping them. Be willing to talk to them and guide them through the fit of all about me.  Always be willing to stand up to them and do not let them control you. You are the only ruler of yourself.
 When you allow this person to take over your life, you are feeding into their addictions of needing to dominate. They have an unending appetite for control, being right and never being judged. They will be violent when you judge them or embarrass them.  They have a need for always being right. Therefore, the best thing to do is to agree with them and walk away. You never want to argue with them. This will only make things worse.

 All they need is love and patience. This is often mental disorder brought on by family or childhood trauma. You can try sitting down and talking with that person. They may want the help and someone to vent to.  You can also ask for therapy or meditation between the two of you. You never want to let things get out of control. A therapist will help them to learn to take responsibility for their own actions.  Be sure to praise them when they are making positive progress.  This person really does try heard even though you may feel like you are a on a farris wheel and there is no end in sight to this cycle.

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